I would like to know how many other fathers are a victim of this garbage. I was told I had 5 minutes to leave my home one night because my now ex wife wanted me out of her life and my daughters life. It’s bad enough to be a father and fight for custody but now your faced with a domestic abuse charge. I know full well that women are told to do this but the scum of the earth and by that I mean women’s advocates and the court systems.
I was a very good husband and father and NEVER abused either my wife or daughter and never would have. Since that day I was told to pay close to $500 a month in child support and I was also ordered to attend an anger mgmt class!! Yeah thats right the court ordered me to attend not her. If I don’t attend I need to have a third party watch me when I see my daughter. This is sick.
I spend more time with my daughter than my ex wife ever did and now she is living with some other man that I have never met with my daughter. We as fathers need to make a lot of noise over this. I know full well I am not alone. If it takes me a lifetime to do something I will. I need others to be a part of this. We as fathers are in this together. I know many men who just give up and by doing so this may very well happen to our sons and grandsons and so on.
Please feel free to write me if you have any input or advice other than to give up. I will never even think about giving up NEVER. I need more people to join and we shall make a change.
It is terrifically easy to have false accusations made and make em stick. It happened to me. If you must visit make sure there is always someone who can attest that no funny business occurs, that is if that family has a history of making allegations…
Fight any and all accusations early and vigorously as I can think of no better way of keeping a child away from it’s natural parent.
Who wants to risk sending a child with an alleged perpetrator? Call the hospital where she was born and you may be able to still add your name to the paperwork. In my state they come in and ask paternity right in the birthing room and they are pretty aggressive about it.
You ought to be able to also make her submit to a paternity test in court and all that is necessary is a swabbing of the inside of the child’s cheeks…
The test is cheap and if you can’t afford it the state will help you. Just ask about it. I’m sure your lawyer can tell you about it or even any paternity lab can tell you the procedures. They are usually very nice.
After my Ex, her husband, and a friend of theirs decided to tell the Judge that I was a “possible child predator”, or something to that effect.
I had 4 witnesses (a friend, a co-worker, my psychologist, and my minister). The judge refused to hear from any of my witnesses. His decision: there are serious charges against me involving children, and not even my psychologist could remove the doubt from his mind. Therefore, he has ordered me to have a Forensic Psychologist evaluate me, that is, if I want to see my daughter again.
Any advice from anyone? And, what the hell is a Forensic Psychologist?? I say bring on the test…. problem being that it will cost me a minimum of $2,000.
Anyone in E-land been through this?? Any suggestions would be appreciated! Thanks!!